Showing posts with label anxiety. Show all posts
Showing posts with label anxiety. Show all posts

Thursday, December 21, 2017

Being Too Busy and Tapping

Why do we keep ourselves so busy? And why do we teach our children to do the same?

Check out the article below.

This is the "stress" that plays underneath in our unconscious mind, creating havoc and busy habits that run our neurotransmitters.

Once the habit is formed, and later the neurotransmitter levels drop even for just a few minutes, we become depressed, antsy, crabby, and anxious.

There must be a happy medium!

Good news is EFT can reset these habits, changing our circadian rhythms to something much more healthy!


Remember, EFT is NOT a substitute for good medical care, so please call your own personal physician if you need that type of help!

Sherrie Rice Smith
Certified EFT Practitioner
Author of EFT for Christians Advanced (2017)
Author of EFT for Christians 52 Tapping Devotions (Christmas, 2017)
Author of EFT for Christians Devotions (Christmas, 2018)
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Wednesday, December 30, 2015

Worry & EFT


Worry!  It pervades our modern life. It is what we do as humans. We worry about relationships. We worry about finances. In certain instances, we worry about our safety and we worry if we will have sufficient food to feed our children the next day. We just worry. And often, if there is nothing to worry about, we worry about that! I’ve actually had clients come to me to tap on just that specific idea. If they have nothing to worry about, they will create something worrisome. Worry is what they do.

Philippians 4:6-7 reads, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” All our fears, anxieties, and worry are to be placed into His loving arms. They are His to carry.

I believe Apostle Paul is referring to an attitude. An attitude of knowing who our Savior is and what He has done for us. That knowing keeps us surrendered to Him all day long, through the thick & thin of life’s travails, desiring to do His will every minute of our lives. J. Vernon McGee wrote in one of his Thru the Bible entries entitled “The Attitude of Prayer, “Prayer is an attitude of the life. It is more an attitude of life than an action of the lips.”

Dr. McGee ended the short study with this, “There was a famous preacher, years ago in the state of Georgia, who had many very unusual expressions. One of them was this, ‘When a man prays for a corn crop, God expects him to say Amen with a hoe.’ You can’t just stay on your knees all the time and pray for a corn crop. That’s pious nonsense. But to pray for the corn crop and then go to work is the thing our Lord is talking about in days when men’s hearts are failing them. “Men ought always to pray, and not to faint.” (Luke 18:1).

Prayer is an attitude of awareness that God is with us, and unlike the New Ager’s non-personal god, He is interested and involved in our every thought and action. We whisper prayers of thanksgiving throughout the day, or ones asking for help, if something difficult arises. We just know He is right there with us, a prayer or thought away.  He waits for us to talk to Him. He desires that communication. If at Baptism the Holy Spirit indwelt us, how can we do anything differently? 

Now, that all said & done, we know nothing is that easy!  After all, we are human, and our thoughts turn to worry, fear, discouragement, and anger.  It is life, and it appears to be the way we are programmed. Or is it?

As we go through the day, prayer should be our first response to everything that makes us fearful, anxious, or angry, etc.  A lack of prayer will cause us to be dependent on our own abilities and thoughts instead of depending on God's grace and mercy and help. Unceasing prayer is the humbling of ourselves through continual dependence upon and communication with the Father.

But what happens when the fear, worry, or anxiety continues to rear its ugly head?  What happens when we cannot seem to follow that Biblical admonition to stop worrying? Do we not trust God? Is God not answering our prayers?  I don’t believe that to be the case at all. God created us with a specific physiology. He knows what He created and how we function within our bodies. God allows certain situations to occur in our lives, sometimes for decades, to keep us growing closer to Him, or to teach us something important, lessons required for us to do a job God has appointed us to do for Him.

God’s physiology goes something like this:  We learn worry early in our lifetime. Oh, it might be something that today we would find inconsequential, like being afraid of the history report we must give before the class tomorrow, or not understanding the science in an upcoming big test. Worry and anxiety set in. The cognitive learning process instilled in our mind has just begun.  We brew up unconsciously a mix of neurochemicals. Each mix is different, but specific to us, for each emotion we feel. Our bodies memorize those chemical mixtures.

Time and time we feel the exact feelings when we experience similar circumstances because those special chemical mixtures are brewed and dumped into our blood streams.

We become accustomed to the feelings. Sometimes, we even like them because they are familiar to us, or, as the body is prone to do, we like the kick of endorphins it releases immediately after the neurochemical mix is released. Endorphins relax us, and the body is programmed to do that to ameliorate the original stimulating chemicals it released in emotions of fear, worry, or anxiety.

Over the following decades, other problems arise that reinforce all that worry and fear and anxiety. Each time, it seems we worry more and more, or the worry is more deep set. Finally, by middle age, we find ourselves literally worrying about nearly every single thing in our lives. We can tell ourselves a million times that we have nothing to worry about – God has it all under control, but, for some reason, that never really reassures us, and we continue to worry (Matt. 6:25-26, Luke 12:22-31).  Eventually, the guilt about worrying begins to set in, too, adding to the angst. We know in our heart it is wrong and sinful, as it places us in control of our life, not God, and we pray diligently to be delivered from it.

We all know God can do whatever He finds necessary. Sometimes, He simply rescues us from our deep-seated worry, setting us free. Other times, it continues, like St. Paul’s thorn, leaving us overburdened and sick. God, at other times, brings alongside us something else to assist us, and answering our prayers in other ways.

If you have prayed for God to help you stop worrying about everything, perhaps it is now time to consider using Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT).

Hindsight is a wonderful thing!  Now, after praying for more than 40 years for God to “fix” my life, one that I felt was pathetic, filled with constant negativity, self-doubts, self-hatred, and persistent worry, He lead me to a permanent solution – EFT!

Would I right here, right now, be doing what I now do – tapping with hurting people, teaching other wonderful Christians to become Christian EFT practitioners, and writing this article, if God had promptly and immediately, when I first asked 40 years ago, relieved me of that early emotional turmoil. Absolutely not!

God used all that horrible negative stuff to mold me (Isaiah 64:8) and make me as He wished me to be and desired me to do for Him.  

Romans 9:20 as written in the Message says it best: “Who in the world do you think you are to second-guess God? Do you for one moment suppose any of us knows enough to call God into question? Clay doesn’t talk back to the fingers that mold it, saying, “Why did you shape me like this?” Isn’t it obvious that a potter has a perfect right to shape one lump of clay into a vase for holding flowers and another into a pot for cooking beans? If God needs one style of pottery especially designed to show his angry displeasure and another style carefully crafted to show his glorious goodness, isn’t that all right? Either or both happens to Jews, but it also happens to the other people. Hosea put it well: I’ll call nobodies and make them somebodies; I’ll call the unloved and make them beloved. In the place where they yelled out, “You’re nobody!” they’re calling you “God’s living children.” Isaiah maintained this same emphasis: If each grain of sand on the seashore were numbered and the sum labeled “chosen of God,” They’d be numbers still, not names; salvation comes by personal selection. God doesn’t count us; he calls us by name. Arithmetic is not his focus. Isaiah had looked ahead and spoken the truth: If our powerful God had not provided us a legacy of living children, We would have ended up like ghost towns, like Sodom and Gomorrah. How can we sum this up? All those people who didn’t seem interested in what God was doing actually embraced what God was doing as he straightened out their lives. And Israel, who seemed so interested in reading and talking about what God was doing, missed it. How could they miss it? Because instead of trusting God, they took over. They were absorbed in what they themselves were doing. They were so absorbed in their “God projects” that they didn’t notice God right in front of them, like a huge rock in the middle of the road. And so they stumbled into him and went sprawling. Isaiah (again!) gives us the metaphor for pulling this together: Careful! I’ve put a huge stone on the road to Mount Zion, a stone you can’t get around. But the stone is me! If you’re looking for me, you’ll find me on the way, not in the way.

Emotional Freedom Techniques is another of those answers to prayer. While He allows worry, fear, and anxiety to be part of our human experience, one started in response to original sin our first parents committed in the Garden of Eden, He also instilled in us a mechanism to relieve just those emotions.

EFT, or tapping, is a physiology process where by these fore mentioned emotions can be permanently dismantled. How? By allowing the subconscious to bring to the surface those early memories where the worry first began, and tapping away the emotions attached to those events. As we can read in the next paragraph, we must break the negative worry patterns in our lives in order to maintain our health. Even our grandmothers understood that worry could kill us. Now, science understands why.  The old computer adage, “Garbage in, garbage out” works within our own bodies. Every piece of negativity we think or speak is picked up by the antennae on our cellular receptors, and all 50-200 billion cells in our bodies have 50,000 to 100,000 cellular receptors on each. That is an awful lot of communication tools to pick up negative vibes.

Dr. Allison Adams writes in an article, “According to Dr Lipton, all living things and all cells can only be in one of two modes. The first of these modes is 'survival' whereby they are in a protective or bracing mode and the second is that they are reproducing. For any cell in the body, to remain for too long in the 'protective mode' eventually undermines the body's defenses as normal replacement and maintenance cannot take place and the adrenal system shuts off the immune system which can ultimately result in various diseases. 

Dr Lipton determined that all cells have antennae that are tuned into the signals broadcast by the mind and that fearful signals cause the cells to remain in their 'protective' mode indefinitely. Individual humans, he maintains all have unique frequencies associated with all their cell membrane receptors. Further, that many of the beliefs that we broadcast to our cells are unconscious and were acquired in a semi-hypnotic state before the age of 7 years of age.

This means that in order to get a different physical outcome, we must change the broadcast and this can be done either by becoming very mindful of our internal chatter, undergoing hypnotherapy (to access the same mind state as the program) or by using one of the energy psychology techniques such as Emotional Freedom Technique, body talk, Avatar, holographic re-patterning or Psyche-K.” (http://www.thenaturalrecoveryplan.com/articles/cell-membrane-the-cells-brain.html).

It’s how God created us when He breathed breath into Adam’s nostrils on the sixth day of creation.

EFT will break all that negative self-talk, those voices in your head, that cause you to worry, or feel God doesn’t love you, or you are worthless to humanity, etc.

Free yourself of those emotions of anxiety, fear, and worry through EFT, opening you up to an awakened spiritual experience through God’s mighty grace.  Somehow once EFT knocks back those unwanted feelings, a whole new world of God’s grace opens up to us. It’s been there the entire time, but we have been wallowing in base emotions, allowing them to drown out our Savior’s voice. Instead of allowing worry or fear to persist, overwhelming those cellular receptors, tap instead, allowing them to flood you with God’s mercy and grace and love.

Allow God to instill into you the peace of God that passes all understanding by using this EFT mechanism God implanted in you at birth.

God bless your walk with Him! 

EFT is not a substitute for a physician's care. Call your doctor if you determine to need to do so. Please take responsibility for all of your physical needs. 

Sherrie Rice Smith, R.N. (Retired)
Certified EFT Practitioner
Author EFT for Christians (2015)


Wednesday, June 10, 2015

Forgiveness & EFT


The more I read the more I get what is going on underneath all of this EFT stuff.

Forgiveness is the bottom line. It's what Jesus preached about alot, but when is the last time you heard a pastor tell you how to forgive?

Yep! Never! All we ever heard is forgive and forget.

Well, it doesn't work that easy. I'm tired of listening to it.

Forgetting and denial and stuffing it has never gotten a Christian one inch closer to forgiveness. We Christians are the best preachers of "get over it" I've ever seen. And mostly because we don't want to listen to someone else's pain. Why? Because it, too, triggers us. We feel it and it reminds us of our own pain.

The hurt is too deep and too intense. It's glued into our physiology the way God created it to be. Once Adam and Eve sinned, the shame of it got stuck in us for succeeding generations. It's called original sin.

Until each of us is willing to go back into the pain and look at it again, feeling it, and allowing Jesus to release it, not us release it, nothin' ever going to happen.

Tapping is the way God created in us to release it. Once we release enough of our garbage, the forgiveness just plain comes naturally. We eventually feel no angst against whomever hurt us.

They may never, ever, ever change their behavior, but that is NOT our job to change them!  That is the HS's job. Our job is to, with the help of the HS, change ourselves. Cooperate in God's method of sanctification. EFT is one method.

For more information go to www. EFTforChristians.com .  To schedule a free 15 minute EFT consultation to see if EFT is right for you, email me at EFTforChristians@gmail.com.

Always remember to take complete responsibility for your own health and well-being.

Monday, October 7, 2013

Guilt from an Abortion 30 Years Ago Gone with Christian EFT

Recently, I had an EFT session request from an out of state relative with whom I’ve had a few email/phone exchanges about the subject. Annette had downloaded the EFTUniverse.com mini-manual & tapping site sheet & she had done a bit of tapping on her own on a few personal issues, such as a headache & anxiety with good success. What she wanted to discuss was bigger than she figured she could handle on her own. We made a noon appointment to do EFT over the phone. When she answered the phone, I made sure she had the tapping site sheet available, along with a class of water. I had texted her earlier in the morning to remind her to find the tapping paper. Once again, I made sure Annette understood that I would tell her where I wanted her to tap and how I needed her to repeat what I said. If she didn’t feel connected to my words to please change them in any manner she felt appropriate, as this was her session, not mine. I was simply guiding her. A word of explanation to the tapping community here – I’m a Christian EFT coach which means that if I have a Christian client, I will pray with the client before we begin a session, asking the Holy Spirit’s guidance. I will also use Christian-based tapping phrases. I have used this in multiple cases and it works just as well, if not better, than the standard EFT phrases. My clients connect with these phrases better, as do I. Annette indicated to me that she had a fairly high anxiety & stress level, pre-anticipatory grief over the soon to happen death of her father, who is quite ill. Her SUDS was a 7, on a scale of 0 - 10. The set-up: Even though I have all this stress because I know Dad is going to die soon, I know God loves me. Even though my anxiety level is through the roof, I know Jesus loves me. Even though I’m already worrying about how I’m going to handle all the hassles of the estate with my brothers and sisters after Dad passes, I know God loves me very much. TH: I can’t stand all this stress about Dad. EB: I’m nearly beside myself worrying about all the stuff I will have to handle. SE: I know the other kids are going to give me all kinds of grief about the house. BE: I can’t live here forever; the house is too big. UL: I won’t have anywhere to go when Dad dies. CH: I can’t imagine I will be able to handle all this. CB: All this work that is going to fall on me when Dad dies, so I try to keep him alive as long as possible. UA: DAD’S dying and I can deal with that, as he is old, it’s all the after stuff that is so hard to think about. We did a couple rounds of tapping around these issues with Annette changing a few words here & there to match what she was feeling. At this point I stopped her & had her drink some water, deep breathe, and tell me where she was with her SUDS & what she was now thinking. SUDS had come down to a 3 or 4, but a new aspect had arisen. “I talked to Jimmy about this, but I think I deserve all this hassle & I shouldn’t be complaining at all about it because I had that abortion in high school.” Annette went on and on for a good 15 minutes about this issue, so I let her talk, as I had time, but I told her to keep tapping while she “ranted”. By this time her SUDS went back up to a 6. We tapped: TH: I deserve all this hassle. EB: It’s all my own fault that I have to deal with this. SE: I know God has forgiven me, but I still feel guilty. UE: When I don’t feel guilty, I feel guilty because I don’t feel guilty, and I think I should be feeling guilty. UL: I worry about what other people are thinking. They think I should have more remorse than I’m showing. CH: How can I face that child in heaven? I killed that baby. CB: I deserve what I get taking care of Dad. I caused it all. UA: This is my punishment for what I did. Someone has to make up for killing that baby. We stopped after 2 rounds, reevaluated, drank some water, and tested. The SUDS was down to a 2. Annette brought out another aspect that popped up. “I have no self control with food. I have all these weight issues which are punishment, too, for what I did”. Hesitantly, she went on about lack of interest in sexual matters and my body is “tired and not holding up well”. She was frustrated with herself, “doctors, insurance, and hospitals”. She discussed for a short time the Catholic Church teachings on sexuality now that the subject was opened up. Her SUDS went back up to a 10. No setup done again. We went right back to tapping. TH: I’m disgusted with myself. EB: I have no self-control. I just keep stuffing food in my mouth. SE: I’ve gained all this weight & I can’t keep up in life. UE: I’ve lost all interest in sex and Jimmy just keeps going. UL: I’m just so tired keeping up with Dad and the kids. CH: I’m frustrated with myself that I can’t seem to be able to do this job. CB: I’m tired of all the doctors, insurance and hospitals. They wear me out, too. UA: I’m so very disgusted with myself, but I know God still loves me. After 3 rounds with the above reminder phrases, we again stopped to check where she was. Some deep breaths, a drink of water, and a short break told me she was still at a 7. Because this was a phone session and I was listening extremely intently to any changes in her voice, I knew she was starting to break down, as her voice was cracking. I knew she was near to tears. Asking how she was, Annette told me this all brought back an incident from when she was aged 12. I had at one of the previous breaks quickly explained to her that EFT was particularly effective, if one could link the present emotion to a childhood event. Annette had just come up with a childhood event. I told her to keep tapping while she told me this story: While playing around an old building with some friends, playing hide & seek, a man ran up to her and grabbed her across the chest on “my boobs”, then ran off. None of her friends witnessed it, but she told them about it when they returned. Her girlfriends asked why she hadn’t screamed. “I tried, but nothing came out”, was her answer. Of course, none of them believed her, so one of her friends asked, “Did you enjoy it?” Her answer was an emphatic “no”, but she had realized she had a bit of sexual arousal around the event, so in set the guilt & conflict over not being able to scream and the “nice” feelings. “I was a coward for not standing up for myself. I was too weak to scream. I was too weak to say no to the abortion. I was too scared to make a decision about anything. And now I can’t make any decisions about much of anything either,” all came streaming out without a break. I quickly asked for a SUDS which I suspected was pretty high because the tears were really beginning to flow. Again, no set-up, as she was definitely in the moment & her SUDS was an 8 & she was in tune with her intense feelings. I asked if she had Kleenex. She did. I could hear her blowing her nose…a lot! TH: I’m a coward. EB: I don’t know how to stand up for myself. SE: I was too weak to say no to the abortion. UE: I’m too scared to make any decisions about anything. UL: I tried to scream. Nothing came out. CH: I’m such a coward. CB: I’m weak. UA: I don’t know how to stand up for myself. Crying had slowed a bit, so I continued. TH: I was alone when that man came. EB: I told my girlfriends what had happened. SE: They asked why I didn’t scream. UE: I did scream, but nothing came out of my mouth UL: He grabbed my boobs. CH: I was so surprised and embarrassed. CB: Did you enjoy it? UA: Did you enjoy it? Crying began again, so I continued. I knew I was hitting a really sore spot with Annette and I wanted to disarm it quickly and thoroughly. TH: Did you enjoy it? EB: I couldn’t scream. SE: He grabbed my boobs. UE: Did you enjoy it? UL: No one believed me. He ran off. CH: I feel guilty because it aroused me. CB: I feel that guilt, but I know God has forgiven me. UA: God forgave me, as I was only 12 and it wasn’t my fault. I didn’t ask for it. Crying slowed again, but I did another round on the hand points on the last 4 phrases as above to make sure the issue was gone. We reevaluated again, along with getting another glass of water for both of us, and taking some deep breaths. Annette said she felt much better and had a SUDS of 2. Another aspect change showed up, as Annette’s voice softened and I knew she was thinking about something else now. “That progression of growing up with so much immorality. All that feminity. I allowed guys to walk all over me. I was so promiscuous. I never told Jimmy too much of it because I feared it would damage our relationship. He didn’t want to know he said. I was taught right and wrong. I feel so guilty. I remember feeling like trash. I was always heavy and bigger than my older sisters, but everyone told me I wasn’t heavy, I was just big boned. I was told I looked like Dad, and Dad always had weight issues until recently, so I figured I would be fat, too”. “What am I going to say to that baby when we meet in heaven?” I assured her that the baby is in heaven and I suspect the baby will run to her, wrapping her arms around Annette, saying, “Hi, Mom!”. I asked Annette if she had confessed her sin to Jesus. “A hundred times, but I still feel so guilty”, she answered. I had her tapping while she talked. Usually, I would ask a client where they physically felt all these issues, but Annette had no problems articulating what she was feeling, nor did she have any problems getting into the moment of the issues. She was such an easy client to work with even though this was all being done over the phone! She was once again beginning to cry. I asked her to give me 2 different SUD levels – one on the “immorality” and another on the weight issue. Both were 10s. I decided to do one at a time, rather than confuse the issues. This would enable me to know where the SUDS level was on 2 different issues, and make sure I disarmed both of them adequately. We began again without a setup, as she was sniffling quite a bit, with me tapping using her own words: TH: All that growing up. EB: So much immorality. SE: I allowed guys to walk all over me. UE: I never told Jimmy much of this. UL: I felt like trash. CH: I’m ashamed of myself. CB: I went to all those clubs and drank like a fish night after night. UA: All this guilt over that behavior. Next round continued as I could hear the crying subsiding, but not completely: TH: All this immorality. EB: I didn’t feel too feminine, so I let the men walk all over me. SE: Those men used me & I let them. UE: I knew right from wrong. I was taught better than this. UL: I feel so guilty. CH: If I tell Jimmy, it might damage my marriage. CB: I felt like trash. UA: I still feel like trash. Again, the crying was nearly finished, so I went one more round: TH: I feel like trash & I killed that baby, but I know God loves me. EB: I feel so ashamed, but I know Jesus died on the Cross for me & this shame. SE: I feel so guilty because I killed my baby, but I know Jesus loves me very much. UE: I let men use me because I wouldn’t stand up for myself, like I didn’t stand up for myself when I was 12. UL: I think I can let myself forgive me because God loves me & forgives me. CH: I think I can forgive myself because Jesus forgives me. CB: I do forgive myself. UA: I do forgive myself because Jesus has forgiven me & has tossed those sins as far as the east is from the west. Annette was down to a 2 on the sexual immorality guilt & shame and she wanted to leave just a little to remind her of how she had behaved in her younger years & to keep her from never taking for granted all the forgiveness God and other people have given her for these issues. That was her choice and I honored that, as I know that at times that the SUDS of 2 might well drop lower as the calm & peace of the EFT effects set in. We next tackled the 10 SUDS issue of weight: TH: I was bigger than my older sisters by the time I was 8. EB: I’m not heavy, I’m big-boned everyone told me. SE: I’m so ashamed of my size. UE: I look like Dad & he always had weight issues. UL: I figured I would always be fat like Dad since I looked like him. CH: I was bigger than Sis and that made me feel fat. CB: I think I can forgive myself for my weight. UA: I know I can forgive myself for my weight. We did a 2nd round on this with the second round emphasizing the forgiveness part a bit more and this weight issue dropped like a rock to a big fat 0! Pun intended! Annette was elated on how wonderfully relieved she felt and wanted to leave the session right there. Her following comment emphasis revolved around the Christian aspect of forgiveness and “how much God does love me”, which she says, “I needed to hear, so thank you.” I gave her instructions to keep tapping daily, but not to neglect her prayers, confessing her sins daily, particularly making sure she went over her day with the kids mentally and tapping away any problems or issues, so they didn’t build up into some larger emotional issue. She is to call me to set up another appointment when she is ready, or email me if she gets stuck, allowing me to help her frame out the wording, etc. It was a classic EFT session, Christian style. I checked on her via email the next day and Annette was thrilled because “I feel so calm today and I don’t know why!” I giggled and told her, it is the EFT. That’s the way it works! 8/12/13 Another text arrived from Annette thanking me again for taking time to tap with her. “I’ve never had this much peace in my life. Many of my fears and anxieties are gone. I’ve lived with those for years. God is so good. I’m grateful He sent me to you. I’m sorry Bill died, but what a benefit to me that he did. I reconnected with you.” For more information, go to www.eftforchristians.com To schedule a free 15 minute EFT consultation session, email me at eftforchristians@gmail.com Always remember to take complete responsibility for your own health and well-being. Contact a medical professional, if necessary.