How Energy Psychology Works with Internal Issues

“How energy psychology works with internal issues: a. Bringing to mind a memory, thought, or cue related to relationship difficulties . . . b. Activates the amygdala and initiates a stress response (cortisol, adrenaline, and other stress hormones flood the system and the hippocampus goes offline). c. BUT stimulating selected acupuncture points initiates an opposing process: d. The alarm response is turned off, even though the memory or trigger is still present. e. With a few repetitions, the memory or trigger no longer evokes the alarm response. f. The hippocampus can process the current experience in concert with the prefrontal cortex. g. This becomes the “new normal” – the internal model has been changed. 4. Acupoint tapping changes the brain in any of five ways: a. Reducing the amygdala’s threat response. b. Extinguishing conditioned responses. c. Supporting hippocampus and prefrontal cortex activity. d. Increasing the neural impact of positive self-imagery. e. Increasing the neural impact of well-conceived suggestions." David Feinstein, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist who has served on the faculties of The Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, Antioch College, and the California School of Professional Psychology. Author of more than 80 professional articles and eight books, he has been a pioneer in the areas of Energy Psychology and Energy Medicine. His books have won nine national awards, including the U.S. Book News Best Psychology/Mental Health Book in 2007 (for Personal Mythology) and an Indies Best Books Award (for The Promise of Energy Psychology). Sherrie Rice Smith Certified EFT Practitioner EFTforChristians.com Author of EFT for Christians 5 Book Series

Shape of Our Heart Changes with Emotion - Try Tapping

This is a pretty interesting TED talk from a cardiologist who explains how the shape of our heart is changed by our emotions.

Another amazing reason WHY we probably need to tap, or learn how to use EFT, for emotional healing.

It surely appears God created our very organs to respond to our environment and to how we feel about our past experiences.

Enjoy!

Remember, EFT is not a substitute for sound medical advice, so if you need medical help please consult your own personal physician.

Sherrie Rice Smith

Certified EFT Practitioner

EFTforChristians.com

Author of EFT for Christians 5 Book Series

Stress Effects on Our Body Video

Pretty cool video showing ALL the reasons we need to tap!

I've written on EFT for Christians Facebook page and in the 5 EFT for Christians books extensively about this precise mechanism.

This is a wonderful visual illustration of how & what stress does to us.

Instead of meditation, we use EFT. Both are effective as they initiate the same physiological relaxation mechanisms God created in our bodies to keep us healthy.

Enjoy the short video!

Remember, EFT is NOT a substitute for sound medical or psychological advice, so please contact your own personal physician when help is needed.

Sherrie Rice Smith

Certified EFT Practitioner

EFTforChristians.com

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Cancer/Diseases and Epigenetics

As a R.N. I've often thought about this! We know fear generates a ton of internal stress, so fear of death or whatever other stresses (financial, relational, etc.) someone encounters during cancer treatment could potentially mess with any treatment.

We also now understand if one fears GETTING cancer or any other disease (based on family history) is probably enough for gene expression to occur. Simply the stress from fearing a possible disease could be enough to give one the disease!

How many times have we heard a friend say something like this, "My grandmother died of ovarian cancer, my mother now has ovarian cancer, so I guess I will get ovarian cancer?'

That statement repeated often enough could possibly come true! You may not even have an ovarian cancer gene in your body that was going to give you cancer, but repeating the above statement (about anything) could be enough to epigenetically express a cancer gene.

This same idea goes for anything in our lives, not just diseases! "My parents were divorced, so will I", "my grandparents died young, so will I", my sister flunked out of college and she is smarter than I, I can't possibly graduate", etc., etc. are all epigenetic statements of sorts.

Watch what you say in daily life! Tap the negative beliefs away!

Internal stress reduction is imperative, especially the thoughts you simply think about - the ones you keep repetitively telling yourself in your own head!

https://www.naturalnews.com/2017-09-20-bombshell-study-shows-that-stress-hormones-caused-by-the-fear-of-a-cancer-diagnosis-interfere-with-cancer-treatments-oncologists-are-killing-people.html

Remember, EFT is not a substitute for sound medical or psychological care, so consult your own personal physician before using EFT.  Thank you!

Sherrie Rice Smith, R.N. (Retired)
Certified EFT Practitioner         
Author EFT for Christians (2015)
Author of EFT for Christians, Tapping into God's Peace & Joy (2016)

Author of EFT for Christians Advanced (2017)

Author of EFT for Christians 52 Tapping Devotions (2017)

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Love and Forgiveness Wrapped up in EFT

I have stated repeatedly that EFT always, always goes to forgiveness (when practiced effectively and frequently).

Forgiveness is the pardoning others unconditionally for offenses done to us, either real or perceived. Forgiveness is the highest form of unconditional love.  It is exactly what Jesus gave us when He went to the Cross at Calvary in our stead (John 3:16).  He restores us into the eternal friendship circle with the Trinity.

Proverbs 17:9 (TPT) says it this way, “Love overlooks the mistakes of others,

but dwelling on the failures of others devastates friendships.”

As I was recently reading 1 Corinthians 13 in my new Passion Translation I was struck at how some of these verses read in comparison to other older translations.

Verses 4 through 8a read like this: “Love is large and incredibly patient. Love is gentle and consistently kind to all. It refuses to be jealous when blessing comes to someone else. Love does not brag about one’s achievements nor inflate its own importance. Love does not traffic in shame and disrespect, nor selfishly seek its own honor. Love is not easily irritated or quick to take offense. Love joyfully celebrates honesty and finds no delight in what is wrong. Love is a safe place of shelter, for it never stops believing the best for others. Love never takes failure as defeat, for it never gives up. Love never stops loving.”  These verses sound so much more down to earth than the usual translations that I read. To me it strikes more solidly at the heart of the practical approach and meaning of what forgiveness and love actually look like, as one ponders HOW to actually carry them out.

However, the verse that really stuck out in 1 Corinthians 13 to me was verse 11 that says in TPT, “When I was a child, I spoke about childish matters, for I saw things like a child and reasoned like a child. But the day came when I matured, and I set aside my childish ways.” While this reads similarly to the NIV version, here is the part that highlighted this verse for me.

The NIV verse says, “When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.” That is all well and good, but simply become mature in age alone doesn’t always, or even usually, get us to spiritual maturity.

When we have childhood trauma there are many things going on in our bodies, minds, souls, and our spirit. Some beliefs we are aware of, other things we have no idea even exist. Because God implanted in us at birth the ability for our subconscious mind to conveniently “forget” our deep emotional pain, we may never come to that adult love and forgiveness place we where we want to be.

In that “forgetting” God instilled a mechanism that affords us safety because the memories may be too harsh, damaging, disquieting, etc. He knew when He created us that sin would enter the world through Adam and Eve. He knew sinful humans would do unspeakable things to each other. These were things that would literally kill us if we were able to remember them. Witnessing these inexpressible moments or having the same unimaginable situations happen to us personally can often cause a break in our psyche. We simply cannot handle emotionally what has happened, so our mind breaks off those pieces of memory and hides them from us.

I’ve written extensively about how those hidden unbelievable memories often cause a state of chronic physical stress which then leads to diseases. Our bodies cannot handle long term lingering stressful memories. Remember, everything we have ever seen or heard or experienced is retained within our subconscious mind. It is all stored there and running as an active, present day memory whether we consciously remember it or not.

Verse 11 talks about, “setting aside my childish ways” but what exactly might that mean in real life? Does it mean you suddenly use good table manners? Or could it mean you use proper speech and grammar? Perhaps you realize that carousing all weekends in a bar, drinking your way until dawn doesn’t make Monday morning work out so well? This list is endless as regards habits we no longer do as we age.

I’m thinking of a different spin on verse 11. As we mature in both age and behavior, how do we now look back decades on old memories and loosen old hurtful memories, allowing them to move toward forgiveness and loving the perpetrator.

How is that actually done? Frankly, neither Scripture nor too many preachers that I have heard seem to be able to tell us precisely HOW to accomplish this. Often the priest or pastor simply espouses that we should forgive because Christ Himself forgave us.

Great idea, pastor, but you don’t understand the level of pain, hurt, hate, and rage I feel toward that person who did that to me! Give me a tool to do that forgiving and loving you talk about!

God has now given us that tool. It is too bad not many pastors know about this technique just yet, but a time will come when all will know about Emotional Freedom Techniques.

My question to you is this: What have you done with your anger, resentment, rage, and hatred about incidents and things that happened to you over the past decades?

Do they still run your life? Do you think about them daily, or multiple times a day? Do you make future life decisions based on how those early memories play in your mind? Do you fear the future because of the past?

1 John 4:18 tells us perfect love casts out fear. Love and fear cannot co-exist. Either one is in control or the other is. In your life which reigns supreme?

Love is bound up in forgiveness. When forgiveness comes to the forefront, fear no longer stand.

I’ve personally had many emotional memories to tap about over the past decade, so my challenge to you is:  Are you ready to be that mature Christian Apostle Paul talks about in 1 Corinthians 13? Are you ready to put aside your childish insecurities and fears? Are you ready to meet those old memories head-on, neutralizing their emotional content so you can love others unconditionally thereby freeing yourself from the chronic physical and emotional stress.

God understood that forgiveness is maturity in Christ that exhibits the Fruit of the Spirit in everyday living is NOT for the person you forgive. It is for YOU! You personally are the one who benefits. The other person may never know you have forgiven them.

When we forgive, God often releases the physical aspects we’ve held for years in our bodies around the unforgiveness. This is often our physical healing in addition to our emotional and spiritual healing.

If you are ready to completely heal, experiencing God’s love, joy, and peace in your life, consider learning to tap.

It’s easy to learn. It’s a self-help tool once you master its methodology. And it is for us Christians to use because it is all based in God’s created healing physiology.

Email me at EFTforChristians@gmail.com for a free Quick Start Instructions and EFT manual.  

Remember, EFT is NOT a substitute for sound medical or psychological help or advice. Please take care of yourself and phone your own personal physician when assistance is needed.

Sherrie Rice Smith

Certified EFT Practitioner

EFTforChristians.com

Author of EFT for Christians Tapping in God's Peace & Joy (2016)

Author of EFT for Christians Advanced  (2017)

Author of EFT for Christians 52 Tapping Devotions (Christmas, 2017)

Author of EFT for Christians Devotions (Christmas, 2020)

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What are Emotional Triggers?

Emotional triggers consists of thoughts, memories, or physical sensations that provoke an automatic underlying response in us. It just happens without any conscious thinking. A trigger does exactly what the word implies - it "triggers" us into a flashback type sensation or an automatic response that feels nearly exactly like the feelings we experience at the time the original trauma, abuse, or negative event occurred. It feels like we are re-experiencing the memory all over again.

The subconscious mind buries many deep painfully emotional memories for us for several decades after it happens, especially abuse memories, and in particular sexual abuse memories.

This is a protective mechanism instilled in us at creation. God knew we couldn't handle the fall-out at age 3 or 8 or 14, or any other age for that matter, when the event occurred, so it all gets buried.

Burying the hurtful memories (and that well could be a mild word - hurtful) sounds like a great idea!

It was in that moment, but TODAY those memories are running a chronic STRESS response behind the our conscious awareness. Our bodies weren't created to deal with ongoing chronic stress.

Eventually the emotional stress breaks down our body. The ongoing tension has to go somewhere if it isn't released.

It's kinda like a spring. It is designed to do a job but eventually it wears out and something breaks!

Tap, tap, tap!

We must settle down our emotional & physical mind. We must re-regulate ourselves. The Holy Spirit is right there with you to help. We must turn off the decades' old alarm bells, and triggers are those old alarm bells STILL ringing!

Triggers are messages from the Holy Spirit alerting us that there is still old faulty emotional information running behind the scene of our conscious mind.

He will bring to mind whatever memories need to be tapped on WHEN HE KNOWS YOU ARE READY AND CAN EMOTIONALLY HANDLE IT.

For those of us who have experienced very early emotional abuse, it may take months or years of sitting with the uncomfortable feelings and tapping. I often hear women say that they felt better after an hour of tapping, but then the "feelings came back." Yes, they do. This doesn't mean that your tapping and praying was wasted, it just means there is much more to do. Keep at it. Eventually the amygdala (alarm center) tends to settle down. It sometimes takes a lot of soothing to convince it that you are now safe.

Remember, EFT is NOT a substitute of good medical or psychological care, so take care of yourself by contacting your personal physician please.

Sherrie Rice Smith

Certified EFT Practitioner

EFTforChristians.com

Author of EFT for Christians 4 Book Series

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Being Too Busy and Tapping

Why do we keep ourselves so busy? And why do we teach our children to do the same?

Check out the article below.

This is the "stress" that plays underneath in our unconscious mind, creating havoc and busy habits that run our neurotransmitters.

Once the habit is formed, and later the neurotransmitter levels drop even for just a few minutes, we become depressed, antsy, crabby, and anxious.

There must be a happy medium!

Good news is EFT can reset these habits, changing our circadian rhythms to something much more healthy!

Disease of Being Too Busy

Remember, EFT is NOT a substitute for good medical care, so please call your own personal physician if you need that type of help!

Sherrie Rice Smith

Certified EFT Practitioner

EFTforChristians.com

Author of EFT for Christians Tapping in God's Peace & Joy (2016)

Author of EFT for Christians Advanced (2017)

Author of EFT for Christians 52 Tapping Devotions (Christmas, 2017)

Author of EFT for Christians Devotions (Christmas, 2018)

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Wall Street Journal and EFT

EFT got some billing in the Wall Street Journal a couple of days ago!

We all know most of the other techniques mentioned here work rather poorly for various reasons. They are methods touted over and over in health journals, and if they worked well, the world would be stress free!

Tapping is different - it works with the subconscious mind where the destructive, health damaging thoughts reside, not with conscious thoughts that are difficult to change.

God intentionally inserted into our bodies a method for us to heal. It can happen naturally, but stress, anxious thoughts, trauma, etc. gets in the way of that healing. This is why we use tapping. It gets to the root of the issues with the help of the Holy Spirit.

Thinking about your problems won't make or allow them to go away. Tapping just might! Learn to tap today! Like any other learning curve it needs some effort and a bit of time, but it may be one of the most important lessons you will ever learn.....and you just might be amazed how much better you will feel!

Wall Street Journal Stress Article

Remember, EFT is not a substitute for sound medical care, so should that need arise, contact your own personal physician.

Author of EFT for Christians book series 

Order your book copies today and get on God's road to His healing!

Sherrie Rice Smith

EFT for Christians Video # 20: Stress and EFT

Here is another instruction YouTube video from EFT for Christians:  Stress & EFT Video # 20

Remember, EFT is not a substitute for sound medical or psychological care. Please call your own personal physician and take responsibility for your own emotional and physical health.

Blessings in the Risen Christ!
Sherrie

Epigenetics, Peter Levine, & EFT

Dr Peter Levine's book "When the Body Says No", reads "Hans Selye, the founder of stress research, developed the concept of adaption energy. 'It is as though we had hidden reserves of adaptability, or adaption energy, throughout the body....Only when all of our adaptability is used up will irreversible, general exhaustion and death follow.' Central to any understanding of stress, health and disease is the concept of adaptiveness. Adaptiveness is the capacity to respond to external stressors without rigidity, with flexibility and creativity, without excessive anxiety and without being overwhelmed by emotion. People who are NOT adaptive may seem to function well as long as nothing is disturbing them, but they will react with various levels of frustration and helplessness when confronted by loss or by difficulty. They will blame themselves or blame others. A person's adaptiveness depends very much on the degree of differentiation and adaptiveness of previous generations in his family and also on what external stressors may have acted on the family." page 221 "'Highly adaptive people and families, on average, have fewer physical illness, and those illnesses that do occur tend to be mild and moderate in severity,' writes Dr Michael Kerr. 'Since one important variable in the development of physical illness is the degree of adaptiveness of an individual, and since the degree of adaptiveness is determined by the multigenerational emotional process, physical illness, like emotional illness, is a symptom of a relationship process that extends beyond the boundaries of the individual patient.' Physical illness, in other words, is a disorder of the family emotional system (which includes) present and past generations" page 222. Now, there is a mouthful! This is a good explanation of epigenetics. We are a product of our family line, BUT we have a tool few others have had. We each can clear for ourselves, our present families, and our future grandchildren generations to come, by doing our own emotional work. I often tell clients, especially mothers, that the buck has to stop sreomewhere, why not you? As I continue to challenge you to clean up your emotional stuff by tapping, I hope you will take the above words to heart! There appears now to be enough scientific evidence that this generational garbage is indeed passed down to subsequent generations. Stopping some, if not all, of the cycles lies in your fingers. Go for it! Become the family hero! Give your great-grandchildren one of the greatest gifts ever - a cleared family line! But isn't this interesting when looked at through Biblical lens? Exodus, Numbers, & Deuteronomy all have similar verses regarding sins of the fathers. My best guess is there no doubt are cumulative. Does that answer why it seems to many so much is going on, or has the world always been this big of a disaster and mass media makes it look worse? My guess is the latter. History tells us of huge past disasters where millions were killed, but no one heard about it until a year later! In the final analysis, it doesn't matter because our action needs to be the same. We need to tap & clear our stuff. It is part of the process of sanctification. Redemption is FREE, but we are "to take dominion" and clean things up for us and others. Remember, EFT is NOT a replacement for professional medical or psychological help. Call your own personal physician for that assistance. Sherrie Rice Smith, R.N. (Retired) Certified EFT Practitioner Author of EFT for Christians – on Amazon EFTforChristians.com

Cellular Memory & EFT

Every negative memory you have ever experienced (and the good ones, too, but they aren't the problem) are stored in the cells of your body, wreaking havoc, injuring them.

As these negative memories raise your cortisol level & your DHEA level drops, interrupting your healing process the way God created it to heal.

Physical homeostasis is maintained through a high DHEA level and a low cortisol level.

So how do you obtain a low cortisol level, alowing the DHEA to rise? Christian EFT tapping is one of the best processes to accomplish this.

Remember, EFT is not a substitute for medical or psychological care, so please contact your doctor for your physical needs.

Sherrie Rice Smith

Certified EFT Practitioner

Author EFT for Christians

EFTforChristians.com

EFT & Allergies

This is a Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) case I tapped a couple of years ago. For all of you new to EFT, I have found that sometimes allergies, particularly seasonal ones, are based in grief. Clear the grief issue and the allergies may disappear, too. Other times, allergies are the body's way of being overly sensitized to the environment. I was taught an allergy clearing method that has worked well for multiple clients. It is easy to learn & easy to use. 

Here is the EFT allergy case study I wrote up for my certification process:

Carol presented to me with “my horrible allergies. They are driving me totally nuts. I don’t know what else to do. I take so, so many antihistamines a day & still get no relief”.  She knew I was “doing something new” & decided she’d ask me if I could use it on her. Prior to our meeting I gave her the EFTUniverse.com website & asked her to look at and/or print the mini manual, so she had some idea of what we would be doing in the session so we could get right to the heart of tapping, as I suspected this might turn out to be a longer session than I normally did. I’ve known Carol for years and her allergies were indeed out of control.

I asked Carol when her allergies started, as she has had allergies for the 25 years I have known her. She had to think awhile on this.  Finally, she told me no allergies through college, meaning they had to have started in early adulthood after graduation.

On a SUDS level of 0-10, Carol was 8 or higher.  I decided to tap generally on the allergies & see where EFT took us. 

Set-up was:

Even though these allergies are driving me nuts, I completely & deeply accept myself.

Even though I eat a bottle of allergy pills a day and get no relief, I completely & deeply accept myself.

Even though I feel these allergies run my life and not the other way around, I deeply & completely accept me.

While tapping the head & body points I used:

These allergies.

I’m sick of all these allergies.

The allergies are running my life.

The allergies are ruining my life.

All I do is eat one pill after another & I still get absolutely no relief.

These allergies are maddening to me.

These allergies.

I hate these allergies.

I had informed Carol, as I do all my clients, that if my words do not ring true or do not touch them emotionally to either ignore them or change the words to make the session more meaningful to them. In order to make the EFT more effective, she needed to feel the emotion of the words. They needed to impact her. She agreed.

We tapped through the body & head points effectively twice with Carol following my lead.  I stopped her & asked her to take a drink from the water provided for her, breathe deeply, and tell me what she was thinking and feeling.

Carol began telling me about her Mother’s death.  Her Mom was diagnosed with breast cancer a year or two after college graduation.  Carol seemed extremely dependent emotionally on her Mom.  Mom had chosen Valley of the Good Shepherd as the hospice of choice.  This was back in the decades when doctors told patients to smoke to “calm their nerves” & Carol’s Mom dutifully bought a pack of cigarettes to use to calm her anxiety. Carol hated the fact her Mom “took up smoking” while she was dying of cancer. The cigarette smoke smelled badly & irritated Carol’s eyes.  

We tapped on the cigarette smoking while Mom was dying of breast cancer.

I hated that cigarette smoke.

It was bad enough Mom had cancer but now she was taking up smoking, too.

It smelled terrible.

That smoke made my eyes water.

All I can remember is the big cloud of smoke over Mom’s bed.

I hated that cigarette smoke.

My eyes burned like crazy.

I totally detested that damn cigarette smoke, stinking stuff.

Once again, I did 2 rounds of tapping over the smoking issue. I could see a shift of some kind in Carol’s eyes. She just looked like her thoughts were off in the distance.  I stopped her, asking what just happened.  I questioned her if the SUDS was down any at all on the smoking issue, as it, too, had begun at an 8.  It had come down to a 4, but now Carol started to relate to me a smothering feeling she had a week or 2 after the smoking issue commenced when they were called back to the hospice about midnight because her Mom had “made a turn for the worse”.  Asking her SUDS level on the smothering issue, she related it to be a 7. We started the tapping once again.

They called us back because Mom wasn’t doing too well.

She was moaning in pain.

Her breathing was awful.

She looked blue.

All I could smell was the cigarette smoke & suddenly I didn’t feel I could breathe either.

I felt like I was smothering just like Mom seemed to be.

Is this what it is like to die?

This is my Mom.  This is terrible. She really is dying.

Again, we tapped 3 rounds on the breathing issues as Carol had tears running down her cheeks.  I could see this obviously had an huge impact on her.  We stopped to evaluate what was going on. The SUDS had come down to a 2 after being a 5 after 2 rounds.  Tears stopped. I told her to take another drink & sit quietly for a few minutes.  When I asked her overall how she felt, she told me she felt lighter. It simply “felt good to get this off my chest, but I remember Mom in the hospital after the cancer surgery hooked up to all those tubes with blood on the bandages. I just about fainted. I had to go outside the room to get some air.  I was scared”.

On this issue Carol related that she was a 6.  We once again began tapping.  I didn’t do any further set-ups because Carol had an obvious emotional connection to these issues. In the cases & readings I have done, I have found that with an obvious emotional attachment to the issue there seemed to be no need to set up the tapping, so I went right back into this issue.

I was scared.

Mom was hooked up to all those tubes.

There were so many.

Oh my, and the blood is everywhere. Why hasn’t someone cleaned up this mess?

I can’t get my breathe.

I feel like I’m going to faint.

Why is no one doing anything for her?

I don’t know if I can stay here & look at this.

I’m so scared.

At this point I asked Carol if there was another time in her life when she felt like passing out.  After thinking for a few minutes, Carol brought up another surgery of her Mom’s when she was 10 or 12. This was a hysterectomy at St. Luke’s . Her Mom didn’t want her home with her Dad & older brother because “they wouldn’t take good enough care for me. Who would have done my hair for school? So Mom sent me to Auntie Mabel’s & Uncle George’s for the 2 weeks. I didn’t really like it there even though Auntie Mabel took me everywhere on the street car.”  Carol recalled nearly fainting at the sight of blood that time, too, when she went to visit her Mom in the hospital.  The hysterectomy issue was another 6 on SUDS level.

We tapped:

There was too much blood for me to handle.

I was scared.

I was only 12. Why did they make me look at that?

I didn’t want to go to Auntie Mabel’s. She was a flighty old woman.

I wanted my Mom.

No one told me anything.

What was going on?

When was Mom coming home again?

Once again I noticed a shift. Asking Carol what she was thinking, she told me, “Mom didn’t come home that last time. She died.”  And the crying started. “I miss her so much. No one could replace Mom. She was the center of our family.” I asked her if I could tap on her. She agreed; however, she managed to keep tapping around at my request while she related some of the following story:

I told Carol that she could tell me the story of her Mom’s death, but that I would stop her & tap whenever I felt the issue or particular detail was especially emotional for her. I also told her I would tap on her head/face if she could not continue at any point. She agreed.

Carol once again went back to being called back to the hospice the night her Mom died.  They were bedded down in the waiting room, not being permitted to stay in the room with her dying Mom. Another aspect change happened here again.

We tapped:

We weren’t allowed to stay with Mom.

They made us go to another room.

I didn’t want to go to sleep, I wanted to be with Mother.

They gave us blankets & told us to stay in the waiting room.

The nurses would call us if they thought we were needed.

I wasn’t allowed in the room.

No one cared if we wanted to be in the room.

Mom was dying. I wanted to be with her for what time she had left and no one cared.

This issue had begun at an 8. It was down to a 4 after 2 rounds of tapping, so we did 2 more rounds to bring it down to a 2.

Carol never told me about the actual death, but went right to the funeral which obviously had a great impact on her.  “Mom didn’t want a big get together, but there was anyway. I felt guilty about that, but it wasn’t under my control”.  Carol felt this was a 5 on the SUDS scale of 0-10.

So we tapped:

Mom wanted a quiet funeral.

She didn’t want a big get together.

It was a closed casket. At least, they listened to that part.

The guilt that we didn’t listen. I tried to tell Dad.

Mom hated to be in the middle of things.

I feel badly we didn’t do as she asked.

I didn’t like this at all.

Everyone did as they wanted. No one listened to Mom.

With a quick water break, I ascertained this issue was now a 1 and Carol continued her story:  “No one showed up from my work at all for the funeral. No one cared enough to come.”  Carol related that this was a 6.

We tapped:

No one cared.

No one cared enough to show up.

Mom wanted to be insignificant.

I feel insignificant.

Where is everyone?

No one cares.

Can’t someone take some time.

No one cares.

This dropped to a 2 pretty easily with one round of tapping.  And Carol continued by relating that in the procession to the front of the church just before the funeral service started, she was so upset that her older brother & sister were practically holding her up as she walked. “I was crying really hard,” she said, “then someone near the front leaned over and said to me, ‘Stop crying. You are acting like a heathen.’” I asked her what she then did.  Carol said, “I sniffled a bit more. Stood up straight & bucked it up even though we were in the front row with everyone staring at us, listening to ‘Abide with Me’, which I can’t play on the organ for any funerals now without crying”.

We tapped. Carol was weeping again as this was a 9 on the heathen issue and an 8 on being in the front row getting stared at.

I was really crying hard.

Mom was dead.

This was it. Funeral was here.

I’d never see her again.

Arlene & Roger were holding me up as we walked.

I could barely stand this. What was I going to do without Mom here?

Stop crying, you heathen.

You’re weak.

Twice through with head & body tapping only brought this down to a 6, so we kept going:

You are acting like you have no hope.

Why are you crying?

Stop crying.

Are you a baby?

Everyone is staring at you.

Abide with me.

Stop crying.

Stop crying. You must be a heathen for crying.

We tapped on this for probably 10 minutes until her crying stopped and the SUDS came down to between a 1 & a 2.  Carol remembered another person telling her, “You are now an orphan” after her Dad died a few years later.  The orphan issue was a 6 SUDS. Aspect change after aspect change kept coming fairly quickly.

We tapped:

You are an orphan.

Everyone is now gone.

You are alone.

No one cares.

You are now an orphan.

Mom & Dad are dead.

I’m an orphan.

I’m an orphan.

Carol then changed the words for the next 2 rounds to:

“I am no longer an orphan, I’m adopted by God”. Her face changed to a slight smile and the enthusiasm that I know to be Carol slowly came back.  I could see her demeanor lighten the more she said it.  Finally, she broke out into a big grin, telling me, “Yeah, I’m adopted by God. He tells me so in His Word.”  This issue melted away to a zero.

I wanted to get back to the initial issue of the allergies before this long session ended, so I asked Carol to take another drink, finishing off the glass of water, & think about her allergies once again by answering this question for me:  “Did you cry again about your Mom after that person in church told you to ‘stop crying like a heathen’?” She thought awhile & told me, “not really”.

I then asked her if she thought the allergies and the grief were related in any way.  She thought awhile & finally answered, “None that I can think of, although the timing is close”. I’ve known Carol for many, many years, so I felt enough of a rapport to help her out here a bit, something I may not do in other situations.  I asked her to think about this, “Do you think it possible, knowing what I have told you about EFT & the articles you have read that I have given you, that the tears of grief were prematurely stopped, but your subconscious is still crying for your Mom in particular, Dad maybe, and it is coming out as a runny nose & eyes in the form of allergies”?

Her face looked puzzled and she answered with, “I never thought of that! Maybe it does have something to do with each other!” I told her I think it probably does have a lot to do with each other & we should meet again soon & work on her specific allergies if she wanted, or she could do the tapping on them herself, too.

I asked Carol just for good measure to relate once again to me before we quit the entire story regarding the funeral, starting at the point before the family was called to the hospice that last night. Carol did so without a tear shed & fairly matter of factly, telling me, “It was a bummer to me Mom died when I was so young, but the whole thing has helped me grow & I understand how others feel when they have a loved one die, too.  I won’t be like that person who told me to quit crying. They had no clue.”

I was pleased with this session as it was pretty comprehensive. We started with one issue and ended up with her Mom’s death as the real core issue. As I stated before Carol & I have known each other for over 20 years, so rapport wasn’t an issue here. Prior to this session, Carol & I had discussed EFT as we discuss just about everything in life. If I said this would help her, Carol would just agree to try it because she trusts me after all these years.

I didn’t discuss confidentiality with Carol because it is implied in our relationship. It’s just the way it is. Our trust factor just handles all those things. I did use a bit of mirroring with Carol when she did change some of my wording or added a bit of her own during the session. I try to simply follow the client’s lead whenever possible. My intuition came in when I realized that her allergies now are possible repressed grief tears.

As a follow-up a month later, Carol continues to report to me that her spring allergies settled down immensely & she has stopped all Benadryl & Claritin without any more problems. She is extremely pleased!  God be praised!

To schedule a free 15 minute consultation session, email me at  EFTforChristians@gmail.com.

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Always remember to take complete responsibility for your own health and well-being.  Consult a physician for any serious medical issues.

Sherrie Rice Smith, R.N. (Retired)
Certified EFT Practitioner
Author of EFT for Christians
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