Assuming you have a working knowledge of Emotional Freedom
Techniques (EFT) (and if not, please see the EFTforChristians.com on
the right side menu, click on the big blue EFTUniverse box, and sign up for the free EFT how to
manual), I have another emotion clearing idea.
The technique is called “tapping and ranting” or “tapping
and complaining” or “tapping and bitching” for those of us who are more
“earthy”.
Background behind this technique is pretty simple. All of
us, from time to time, call a friend on the phone and go on and on and on about
some upsetting situation or event (or person). The event has simply sent us
over the edge. Psychology teaches us to go ahead and whine as much as we want,
as it helps by letting it all out. I want to take this idea a step further.
Complaining & “letting it out” does works, perhaps, on
the short term, at the very best, but “tapping and ranting” is a long term
solution to this particular problem. Why? Because, as you complain and whine,
and sometimes yell and scream, about a situation, it relieves the immediate
stress, but you have resolved nothing around the issue. You are still stuck
with the problem and its accompanying emotions. Every time you again think of
the situation your emotions flare back again to the previous level, or sometimes
to an elevated level because you have thought up 10 more reasons to be mad! The
more you mull the problem the angrier you get, raising your blood sugar and
cortisol to unacceptable levels, physiologically. It takes you days, or weeks,
to stop being angry, if you ever stop at all. In other words, the complaining
simply drives the negative emotions ever deeper into your subconscious mind,
burying them there permanently (“For as he thinks in his heart, so he is”
Proverbs 23:7 KJV). This is NOT a good thing. Now, you have paired a
bad situation to some specific neurochemicals. These neurochemicals will raise
their elevated heads again, whenever you encounter another situation similar to
what you are now experiencing.
I’d like to suggest another approach to negative situations that
drive you to whine and complain. I give you permission to go ahead & whine
all you want, but tap while you complain. Obviously, as a Christian, I would
prefer you go to the person who has caused you the angst & work out the situation,
but sometimes we simply just complain about it. “Whoever covers an offense
seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends” (Proverbs
17:9).
Tapping while you rant does the opposite of just “venting”,
which implants the negative emotions into your subconscious, while ranting and
tapping releases the emotion behind the event, situation, or person
permanently, allowing you to think clearly about what actually is going on,
rather than what you “perceive” is going on, by putting the 70% of the blood
that drained from your thinking neo-cortex in anger back into that frontal part
of your brain, so you can “think straight”. The biggest benefit is you aren’t
“stuffing” those negative emotions down into your soul where they can cause you
permanent harm, either emotionally or physically. Those negative emotions about
events build on themselves, one on top of another, assembling for us an 89
story subconscious building of unnecessary and damaging beliefs, ones that are
doing us no earthly or heavenly good. Your subconscious digests everything
negative you say, taking it all literally. It thinks this is what
you truly believe and what you truly want to happen, and what you truly think
about someone or something.
Remember, your subconscious is literal,
lineal, & logical. It doesn’t think for you. It simply processes what you
take in with your five senses. Garbage in, garbage out, as the old computer
adage says.
We can take this all one step further into the quantum
physics world. What we think and say is our reality. You think negative and say
negative things about yourself or others, most likely the thoughts or words
will become your reality. Our perceptions become our reality!
Proverbs 6:2
says, “You have been snared by the utterance of your lips, caught by the words
of your mouth”. Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between
reality and imagination. Again, your subconscious is more than willing to
comply with exactly what it thinks you truly want.
Some of this is the
“woo-woo” of the quantum world. Believe it, or don’t believe it – that is your
choice, but scientific study after scientific study proves the concept. None of
us needs to believe it in order to make it all true. I tell atheists this all
the time. Just because you deny the existence of God doesn’t mean He doesn’t
exist. It’s simply your opinion, as it is my opinion that He does exist. One
day we will all see and know who is correct, won’t we? Death is the great
equalizer.
So, my conclusion and parting advice to all of you reading
this is to tap! I would prefer that you simply sit down, alone, in
some quiet place, and tap the situation and its accompanying emotions away,
rather than phone a friend and gossip (“Whoever belittles his neighbor lacks
sense, but a man of understanding remains silent” Proverbs 11:12).
But,
I will admit, we all do it – we vent, so vent all you want, but tap and
encourage all your friends to do the same. Discharge the emotions around
whatever it is you are venting about. I guarantee you will feel much better,
and you will find that the incident or person will no longer have any sway over
you. It just simply will no longer matter to you. And that is the
miracle of EFT!
To
schedule a free 15 minute consultation to see if EFT is right for you, email me
at EFTforChristians@gmail.com
Always remember to take complete responsibility for your own health and
well-being.
