Why don't women, in particular, seek help after sexual abuse. Here's why!
The term "rape" is the overarching global title given to any uninvited sexual event. And the exposing of it all, thanks to the Pennsylvania Grand Jury 2018 Report , is messy, soon to become messier, as the extent of the cover-up and complicity comes to light.
Underneath that broad topic is the sub-category of incest. We know in EFT that a trauma to one person is not a trauma to another & how each of us responds is indeed extremely individualistic.
But incest carries another couple of layers of pain/deeper issues.
Because most perps are known to any rape victim having a close family member take sexual advantage of a child/adolescent creates a double or triple "bust of trust", as I call it.
Rape may be a one time event, violent, unwarranted, but incest within an offending household can literally go on for 1-2 decades, event following event following event. Memories building chemically, binding the victim in a web of hardened core beliefs, as stated in this article. Often PTSD follows because of the complex developmental trauma.
There is so much bio-chemically bound up into the mechanism as to the whys and hows a victim gets tied to his/her perp. It hardwires itself into another disconnected (dissociated) story of its own whereby the truth becomes so blurred that extracting the facts decades later in nigh unto impossible.
As we become a better trauma informed society, this will change. But we are nowhere even close yet. I still have EFT acquaintances who cannot discuss this subject, let alone tap with a client on the topic.
For all of you reading this, please just remember - be compassionate, listen if called upon to do so, no judgments please, and tap for yourself as you hear any sexual trauma (or any trauma) stories told to you. The tapping will calm you so you can stay with the story, listening quietly. It may be the first time a "victim" has told anyone what has happened to him/her!
EFT is not a substitute for sound medical advice, so contact your own personal doctor when help is needed.
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