Showing posts with label safety. Show all posts
Showing posts with label safety. Show all posts

Tuesday, September 1, 2020

Life's Thought Filters

Recently I was asked:  "Is this true?   That once we judge something is true or a fact, our brain actually filters the input we receive to support what we’ve already decided we believe."

My answer:  Yes, you have it!!

What happens from the "learning" of something is we build strong, thick neural pathways, like interstate highways, where our thoughts just tend to gravitate to.  Once we believe something and these neural highways are built that is exactly where we head - right down the same thought line we believe to be our truth, and we return to that pathway over and over again. We are then STUCK!  It kinda is a "dog returning to its vomit".

Canadian researcher Donald Hebbs said, and we repeat, "Neurons that fire together, wire together". In EFT, our motto is, "Neurons that don't fire together, never wire together" which means we can break down those pathways with tapping so we don't with a knee jerk reactionimmediately run down that same thought road.

2000 Nobel prize winner Eric Kandel taught us that ONE hour of thinking the same thought, be it positive or negative, DOUBLES the size of the neural pathway of that thought.  So, worry and rumination strengthens and almost guarantees us more worry and rumination because again we are stuck, literally, in that thought pattern.

Since we have kazillions of neural connections, so many of our thoughts intersect with other thoughts, binding them altogether in one big mass of lies. Cathy & I call these our lying emotions because of that idea.

Good part of this is with tapping comes the "generalization effect" where disconnecting some neural pathways often takes out big chunks of other rather unrelated life habits and patterns that were peripherally connected. This is why other thoughts or even physical afflictions or things just seem to go away without any tapping at all. Subtle personality changes happen and we often don't even notice.

I'm not sure, but you could be correct, that this a spiritual piece of EFT as much as it is a physiological piece.

God put these learning patterns in us to create safety for us. We learned what was good for us and what could harm us.

With Adam & Eve's sin, the whole system went awry. What was meant for good, like everything else, turned not so good when trauma or abuse is introduced into our lives. Instead of knowing that a yellow snake could bite and kill us (and we stay away from it), we now ruminate and worry about the "snake", trying to keep ourselves safe, but the worry finally digs us a big fat stress hole whereby our health can be ruined with chronic illnesses. Dumb example, but you get my gist!

Tapping is all about safety. We will attempt to heal WHEN we feel it is safe to do so. Those who "resist" or have secondary gain around getting better, either spiritually, emotionally, mentally, or physically, don't feel safe at that moment to step into that healing.

Sadly, some people never do feel safe and maybe never receive their healing on this side of heaven.

So, perceptions usually eventually turn into beliefs about who we are in Christ, which is pretty much the sum total of why we should be tapping! Everything else slides in under this one.

Remember, tapping is not a substitute for medical care from your own personal physician, so please contact a medical doctor when care is needed.

Sherrie Rice Smith
Certified EFT Practitioner
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Friday, July 31, 2020

"Resistance" to Tapping: What is That All About?

Emotional healing is personal to each of us. 

How we do life is all based on what we learned as youngsters. If our family understood emotions, listened to each other express them, and reacted in an appropriate way, we often live our adult lives in a more comfortable emotional way.

When a child has seen much emotional abuse, learning to express oneself as an adult is often more difficult. It is a learned behavior. 

There are times when we wish or think we are ready to heal, but doing so just plain doesn't come easily.

Why?

The youngster inside us doesn't feel it is safe to confront or access earlier feelings now because it wasn't safe to do so back in childhood. Our feelings today directly reflect how we felt decades ago.

Tapping is all about feeling safe. 

Sometimes during talk therapy, and I know this from personal experience, discussing how we feel now about something decades ago often brings a torrent of tears, anger, and sadness. It just plain feels safer NOT to discuss any of this. Leaving it buried deep within our psyche seems to be a more prudent course of action, however, doing that usually doesn't bring healing.

When a client doesn't seem ready to change, we call this "resistance" in the EFT trade. Sometimes it sounds like we are blaming the client for not wanting to get emotionally better.

In reality most of the time it has to do with safety and feeling ok to discuss, tap on, and let go of our old emotional baggage that just isn't allowing us to move forward as our Lord would have us do. 

It isn't satan holding us back, it is our own stored stuff. And it may not be our fault we aren't ready to heal now. It is our responsibility to try to work on it though, as emotional healing usually brings us closer to our Lord.

EFT is one of the best techniques and the closest thing to a safety net that is known today. When we access a memory that makes us uncomfortable, tapping most often will settle down the feelings that come up around it. A few tapping rounds usually does the trick.

Don't beat yourself up if there are memories you aren't quite ready to tackle alone with tapping yet. You can also email me to obtain a referral to a Christian EFT Practitioner who can walk beside you as you do tap on these memories. 
Andy Hunt's article is all about feeling safe during tapping in order for us to access and let the emotional content of old memories go back to the Cross where they belong.
God bless your healing!
Remember, EFT is NOT a substitute for sound emotional or medical care. Call your own personal physician when you need that kind of help.
Sherrie Rice Smith
Certified EFT Practitioner
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